Why Observing Is So Difficult

What Are Your Grades
Modified from creation of Hidrafil (Own Work) [Public Domain], via Wikimedia Commons
We’ve discussed about Journal as a space to reflect our observations, in the previous entry. For some, it may not be as easy as we expect. Why? It’s important to be aware that the reason why we see things the way we see is due to the PATTERN that we’ve developed.

Perhaps, we get used to being directed by others. In school, for example, our performance is driven by our grades, and the ecosystem pushes us to focus on such things. As such, the pattern that we have developed tends to put more focus on our grades.

Furthermore, when we have a ‘career’ in a company, our environment pushes us to focus on output. And again, we might join the ‘mainstream’, pushing our company’s performance and having the tendency to disregard our own, true performance.

We are influenced by our surroundings so strongly, that we might forget about our own feelings. We cease to care whether or not our ecosystem’s progress is our progress and the ecosystems’ productivity, our productivity. In the end, we have developed the pattern to look outwards, driven by others, looking for directions that we can’t seem to provide ourselves.

It’s time to change. We are the director of our own life, and it’s time that we develop our own pattern to observe inwardly.

It does not mean that by observing ourselves, we’re neglecting our performance (grades or output). Observing ourselves is just the beginning. The prerequisite. It will ENLIGHTEN us as to who we are, what we stand for, and the reason we exist. Once this clarity is embraced, productivity will be realized. Along with happiness.

It’s time we observe ourselves. Now. Soon is not enough.

2 thoughts on “Why Observing Is So Difficult

  1. Hi Mas Ivan, I like your post very much especially about patterns. I think people develop patterns easily during their childhood. Like anyone else, my childhood experience and environment has influenced the way I see things now. However, now I come to understand that not all of my childhood experience has influenced me to behave or think in a positive way therefore I always try to be aware and then remind myself whenever I start to use those negative patterns. Can this self-awareness practice be introduced to children even though they are still trying to adapt to their new environment? How do we teach people at an earlier age to realize that they can decide to take in or refuse external influence and focus on their true performance?

    1. Hi Adit, glad that you asked. You’re right, our childhood do shapes the way we think today. But, just like any other thing in the world, it can be changed, if we are conscious about it. Now, the core issue is on self-consciousness. How do we help other in developing such practice as early as possible? By asking them to feel, both before and after any action is taken. Yes, we need them to practice ‘feel first and think later’. Thinking is important, but effective thinking occurs only when our heart is at peace. Ask them to pause, to stop, and to listen to their heart before they do anything. It might seems longer, but faster does not guarantee anything.

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